why can’t we see our own beauty like others see it?
i think one of the reasons other than beauty standards is that we’re so used to our own faces that it’s just nothing special to us anymore. We see ourselves in such a different view that we will never be able to accurately compare ourselves to others.
hmmm I forget how I look like all the time. not completely ofc but it’s just that the way i ‘feel’ myself, including the images&ideas i have of myself, rarely overlap with the way i look. so most of the time when i see myself in the mirror i get surprised, ‘oh right, that’s how i actually look like! wow. weird.’ sometimes i feel angry or confident and then i see my face and it looks kinder or shyer than i actually act like. but most of all, i usually feel and think of myself as a more beautiful person than i really am- the features of my face that i keep in my mind are similar but better than the real ones :P so i tend to avoid mirrors… (any other people who are not used to their faces?)
about not seeing our own beauty… i think the way we perceive others is very strongly influenced by their ‘air’, manners, gestures, or simply their charm. we don’t see others as frozen images- which probably won’t look that good for most, while when we look at ourselves, it’s usually in the mirror or photos and our reflection is static so this charm can’t be revealed.
what’s more, the way we see others is affected by the image they present- if we can sense that they consider themselves good-looking or that other people think they are such, our own perception of them often follows that thought like a good puppy. which is one of the reasons people say confidence is attractive. and one of the reasons why celebrities are liked by many people, even though they aren’t more beautiful than non-famous people.
and then of course, the fact that we are taught that good people are not vain and can never utter an admission that they find themselves anything more than plain, if that. the way we speak affects the way we think- when we can’t say ‘i think i look great today’, we usually don’t allow ourselves to think that way too, right. [in my experience, the most beautiful people in the world are the people who i happen to love the most. and if there is such kind of a correlation between beauty and love, then what do you think it means when most people find themselves ugly? this is turning into a total cliche but don’t you think that if you don’t love yourself you can’t find yourself beautiful?]
i agree that “we will never be able to accurately compare ourselves to others” as poppyonthewall said. after all, beauty is an immeasurable quantity so comparison is impossible. however, as Maya Angelou has said, “comparison is an act of violence against the self”. so that doesn’t look like such a tragedy.
the notebook problem: you see a notebook. you want to buy the notebook. but you know you have like TEN OTHER NOTEBOOKS. most which are STILL EMPTY. you don’t need to notebook. you’re probably not gonna use the notebook anyway. what’s the point? DONT BUY THE NOTEBOOK. you buy the notebook.
Let it be known that today, people gathered in front of channel 7’s building to protest against the brutality of the ISIS who aim to establish Iraq, Syria, and Kurdistan as Islamic countries. The ISIS have caused a death toll of over 5,500 (toll from July 18th). They are a movement of extreme Islamists brought together from all over the world to kill those who aren’t Muslim in these three countries. They are reckless people who do not hesitate to murder innocent civilians, and have been taking people’s live away needlessly. In some cases, they force and trap you into a lie (as seen in the Humans Of New York’s cover of the issue) just to murder you. With all that I have said, it should be taken into consideration that with the protest today, no news services, nothing that could broadcast us came to do so; all we attracted were a few policemen. As a child of Kurdish descent, let this be known. Let everyone hear about the inoccent killings that are escalating daily. Let everyone know that the ISIS should be stopped, and we can prevent the Kurdish people to be victim of a second genocide attempt. People of the world, hear our cries.
Goodbye Robin, You made me laugh, you made me cry, you made me wonder what dreams may come. You will be missed.
So this is embarrassing.
As you may know I’ve been having a bit of a rough go of things as of late. I’ve tried selling prints of my pictures and paintings I’ve made, I’ve tried raising money to clean up conservation areas, but nothing has worked. So now I am outright directly appealing for funds to help me get a leg up on things.
Currently I am staying with my mum and my brother in a one bedroom apartment, I need to visit a dentist to have an abscess removed (been over a year that I’ve had it. I’ve been draining it using a sewing needle. Gross, I know), and I desperately need to move to an area with better employment prospects.
Please, any help at all will send me over the moon. A dollar? A reblog? Anything.
I find this tremendously embarrassing but I don’t know what else to do.
May 30th, 2014.
For Trayana! I decided to record some video on this trip to try and capture the sounds and motion of sailing An Suire. It was a lovely calm day and therefore easier to film - it isn’t always like this! Footage shot between West Skeam and Horse Island, finishing up at Middle Calf Island.
I really appreciate this!
A lovely video, especially when you need a short breather/ want to escape from your surroundings for a bit.
Just listen to the sound of water and boat. And enjoy the blue, white and brown.
A Dictionary of Intermediate Japanese Grammar / 日本語文法辞典（中級編）
Seiichi Makino and Michio Tsutsui